Work on You Wednesday

I’m excited for today’s Work on You Wednesday! We have a fantastic video from Matt Townsend about self esteem and social media that you won’t want to miss.

I really couldn’t do this video justice with my weak summary so I’ll let Matt do the talking and then I’ll share my rant insights. It is a longer video than last weeks clips at 18 minutes, but guys, it is SO SO SO worth it. So without further ado….

I told you right? So worth it! I’ve watched this video three times now and I’m sure I will watch it again. I just love Matt’s advice. Now, before I get to my little shpill, I have something so AWESOME to tell you! Matt is so generous in allowing us to offer you a special discount for access to his site. Head on over to townsendrelationshipcenter.com and click on the "Get Access" button and make sure to enter our coupon code (DIARY) to get your first month for $1. This site gives you access to ALL of Matt's content. It's quite amazing and you can learn SO MUCH! So make sure to head on over and check it out. Then you can go visit Matt on his Facebook Page and tell him thank you!

Okay, so...I sort of have a love-hate relationship with Facebook: I LOVE connecting with friends and family; I LOVE the networking abilities; I HATE HATE HATE the drama that can so often come from Facebook. I’ve had the unfortunate experience over the last year to see how the mean and inappropriate things posted on Facebook can destroy friendships--even family relationships. How do we allow this to happen? How do we allow ourselves to become so affected by what someone posts on a social media site? Every time we allow ourselves to become so deeply affected by others' words typed-out insecurities, we are hurting ourselves the most. I think it can be easy to hide behind our Facebook “Walls” we can type out our negativity and hit the enter button without having to see the emotion of the readers' face. We should be asking ourselves, “would I say this to my mother, father, husband, wife, or the random stranger on the street?” If you wouldn’t feel comfortable saying it to those people, it shouldn’t go out for the entire world to see. I know, I know, you have your privacy settings set so high that the whole world doesn’t see it….let me tell you a little secret…it’s the IN-TER-NET! Here is where I am going to do my virtual loving slap upside the head and tell you that it doesn’t matter how high you set your privacy settings. Once you put something on the web, it’s there…good luck trying to get it back. With that said, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE be POSITIVE and NICE on Facebook and Twitter and Google+ and +TweetaboutmyFace….I should start my own social network, huh? It’s all about living the golden rule. If you wouldn’t want someone to post personal, mean, inappropriate things about you, then don’t do it to someone else. We have an opportunity with social media to do so much good! We have the chance to uplift those around us, become better friends, spread the word of worthy causes needing our support. We have so much power to do so much good on our social networks and in turn, we will better ourselves, increase our self esteem, and increase the self esteem of others. It’s a win-win-win situation.
I love that Matt talks about how Facebook is not out to destroy our lives, but if we compare ourselves to the lives bragged about on Facebook, it can do some serious damage to our self esteem. We cannot compare ourselves to the bits and pieces of our friends' lives that they CHOOSE to brag about on Facebook. I’m just gonna get real here, guys I probably would NEVER post on Facebook that I had the most miserable day, that so many things went horribly wrong and I ended up crying my eyes out into a bowl of chunky monkey ice cream. It’s NOT going to happen. Why? 1) I don’t want to burden you with my problems; 2) I don’t want you to feel sorry for me; and 3) I don’t want you to think less of me for having a hard day. However, I WILL post positive things about my life like how I was such a good wife and got ALL the laundry done, ALL the dishes done, ALL the rooms deep cleaned, and STILL managed to get a three course meal on the table complete with candles and centerpiece by the time Mr. Awesome got home from work. Trust me, that has never happened, but still, if it did, you bet I would be posting about it! Why would I post that? 1) I WANT you to be impressed; 2) I WANT you to give me POSITIVE feedback; and 3) I WANT to feel better about myself. I get that some people post negative things about how their lives are going…I also know that when we do it, myself included, it’s not so much that we want to be real, it’s that we want someone to boost us up--we need attention and positive feedback (hopefully we aren’t looking for negative attention, although that does happen all too often) Rant insight sharing now over.
Please take Matt’s advice-learn how social media can increase your self esteem. Use your social media presence for good, not just in your life, but in others'.
Here are my favorite quotes from Matt’s video.
“Lasting self esteem has to come from the inside out”
“Who you are at the core is the most powerful thing you ever need to know.”
My goal for social media this week will be to only post positive things and to make an effort to give positive feedback to others at least once a day.
Anyone care to share their weight loss challenge updates? I’ll go first….not the best week. I need more self discipline but I did loose 1 pound and right now I’ll take whatever I can get. My goal this week is to decrease my soda intake. I collected cans around the house today and kept thinking…who have I had over that would drink this much soda? Then it hit me…it’s us. YIKES! I need to drink more water and less soda, so that will be the goal for this week. What are your goals? Please share so we know we aren’t in this alone.
I found this recipe for Baked Zucchini Fries and thought I’d share since they look SO delicious. I plan on trying them out this week and will let you know how they turn out. You can find the recipe here.
Yum Yum Yum!
We would love to get your feedback on today's post, dare we even say, start a discussion? Talk to us, leave us some comment love!
Good luck on your goals for this week!